The next few months are dripping with festivals, concerts, day parties, and other large-scale events where spontaneous meetups can be affirming or exhausting, fun or risky, freeing or anxiety-inducing. So how can you protect your peace, your health, and your joy while making the most of everything summer brings your way?

As Memorial Day and the summer season approach, so do many exciting travel plans. Trans and nonbinary folks—especially those who are Black, Brown, Muslim, or visibly gender-expansive—deserve to travel with safety, joy, and dignity. We know that this world can be cruel and target us for our differences, but you don’t have to tolerate mistreatment, and instances of mistreatment are not your fault. In other word — don’t let them people play with you!